It’s Time To Stop Being So Hard On Yourself As A Mamma
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We see you there mamma. We see you giving yourself a hard time for losing your temper and raising your voice at the kids. We see you crying because you feel as though everything you do is wrong. We see you because we are you, but we all need to stop being so hard on ourselves. Instead of thinking about all the things that are going wrong, try to think about the things that you have done right. Completing the third load of laundry of the day might not feel as though it is a huge achievement, but it is and you should count it as such. We’re going to be looking at some of the reasons you need to stop being so hard on yourself, so keep reading to find out more.
You Are Doing Your Best
First, you are doing your best and that is more than enough. You cannot do any more than your best at any given time. Sometimes your best is a little more than other days, but it doesn’t matter because as long as you continue to show up every day, you are doing enough. If you think about it, would someone who wasn’t a good parent worry about being one? Probably not, so you have already got this going for you.
It’s okay to be tired, it’s okay to reach the end of your tether every now and then because being a parent is hard. Anyone who says it isn’t hard is either lying or isn’t giving being a parent everything that they have got. Keep that in mind.
You Will Never Be Perfect
You will never be perfect, no matter how hard you try, but do you want to know a secret mamma? Nobody else is either. It might look like it from the outside, but we promise you that nobody is perfect. There is no perfect way to be a parent, and that is what you need to get through your head. You will do things differently to someone else and that is okay. You will mess up, do things wrong, learn from these mistakes and won’t make them a second time. Kids don’t come with instruction manuals and it is often really hard work trying to figure them out but they think that you are the best mamma in the world, even if you don’t.
The Grass Is Always Greener
The last thing that we want to say is that the grass is always greener on the other side. Don’t pay attention to what you see on social media these days. It’s only the good bits that most people put on, so while it may look like they have it together, they may not. Don’t be jealous of the other mamma who remembered to bring the baby wipes at the park. Don’t compare yourself to her and think you are a failure, because maybe she forgot to bring the pushchair raincover when you remembered. Perhaps, instead of worrying about having failed, you can ask the other mamma for support, and she may surprise you by doing the same.
We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now see some of the reasons that you need to stop being so hard on yourself mamma. Your little human or humans are safe and healthy, and at the end of the day this is the only thing that matters. You cannot be supermum every single day of the week, and you need to learn to be okay with this, we assure you that your kids are.
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